The Boy Crisis: Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do About It
What is the boy crisis?It's a crisis of education. For the first time in American history, our sons will have less education than their dads. It's a crisis of mental health. As boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women. It's a crisis of sexuality. Sex is a minefield for our sons. They're bombarded with mixed messages, afraid of being either too sensitive or not sensitive enough. It's a crisis of fathering. Boys with less-involved fathers are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison. It's a crisis of purpose. Boys' old senses of purposes, being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner, are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a 'purpose void', feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification. Compounding this issue are addicting video games that lead to distraction and ADHD.So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policy-makers can do to renew our sons' sense of purpose to help them become men, fathers, and leaders worthy of our respect.
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Dr. Warren Farrell is the author of books published in 17 languages. They include two award-winning international best-sellers: Why Men Are The Way They Are plus The Myth of Male Power. Warren has been chosen by the Financial Times as one of the world's top 100 thought leaders. Dr. Farrell is currently the Chair of the Commission to Create a White House Council on Boys and Men. He is the only man in the U.S. to have been elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW) in New York City. He started more than 300 men and women's groups, including ones joined by men from John Lennon to John Gray. Dr. Farrell has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, TODAY, and Good Morning America, and been the subject of features on 20/20, in Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, People, Parade, and The New York Times. Dr. John Gray is the author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. USA Today listed Mars/Venus as number six among the most influential books of the last quarter century. In hardcover, it was the number one bestselling nonfiction book of the nineties. John Gray's books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries. Dr. Gray's more recent books include Mars and Venus in the Bedroom, Why Mars and Venus Collide, and Work With Me (with Barbara Annis). John has appeared repeatedly on Oprah, as well as on The Dr. Oz Show, TODAY, CBS This Morning, Good Morning America, etc. He has been profiled in Time, Forbes, USA Today, TV Guide, and People. He was also the subject of a three-hour special hosted by Barbara Walters.
Introduction My Personal Journey into The Boy Crisis PART I: Is There Really a Boy Crisis? 1 The Crisis of Our Sons' Mental Health 2 The Crisis of Our Sons' Physical Health 3 The Crisis of Our Sons' Economic Health 4 The Crisis of Our Sons' Education 5 The Crisis of Our Sons Worldwide 6 Why Are We So Blind to the Boy Crisis? PART II: Why the Boy Crisis Isn't Your Fault 7 The Boy Crisis: A Problem Created by a Solution PART III: The Purpose Void 8 The Path-to-Purpose Generation Gap The Power of Purpose "I never thought you cared enough to ask." Your Son's Unconscious WisdomCan a "Real Man" Transition from Provider-Protector to Nurturer-Connector? 9 The "Hero Paradox": Value Yourself by Not Valuing Yourself A Hero with a Thousand FacesThe Sirens of Social Bribes Social bribes: Mom, men, the media, the military The Catch-22 of Your Son-as-Hero 10 Why Do More Marriages Fail in Countries That Succeed? The father's catch-22The Era of the Multi-Option Mom and the No-Option DadHow Did Our Daughters Avoid the Purpose Void?"Sorry, It's a Boy" 11 How Raising Our Sons Successfully in the Past Differs from Raising Our Sons Successfully for Their Future Making Money Versus Making a DifferenceHow to Guide Different Boys Toward Different Senses of PurposeOur Sons' New Sense of Purpose: The Hero's Journey to Emotional IntelligenceSon-Dropping 12 Raising a Balanced Son in an Out-of-Balance World What Happened to Pick-Up Team Sports?Helping Your Son Find His "Edge"Filling Your Son's Purpose Void: Your Son as Hero PART IV: Dad-Deprived Boys vs. Dad-Enriched Boys 13 Dad-Deprived Boys Boys Who Hurt, Hurt Us The Lost Boys: Mass shootersISIS: A gang of dad-deprived boys? Bio Dad: The Discovery of the Dad BrainCareers Are for Now; Children Are ForeverThe Absence of Dad Creates the Presence of Government 14 Why Are Dads So Important? Let Me Count the Ways 15 Rediscovering Dad The Generation of the Dad Rich Versus the Dad PoorWhen Does Dad Begin to Matter?Stepdad or Bio Dad: Does it Make a Difference? 16 What Dads Do Differently Boundary Enforcement (Versus Boundary Setting)Exploring Nature, Taking RisksRoughhousing: Dad as a Rough, Tough Cream Puff"Teachable Moments": A Little Pain for a Lot of GainChallenging the Kids' LimitsHangout TimeTeasing: Emotional Intelligence Training, Dad-Style?The Conditional or Hierarchical DadThe Worrier and the Warrior: The Checks and Balances of Parenting 17 In the Case of Divorce . . . The Four "Must-Dos" 18 The Father Warrior: Why Fathering Will Be a New Male Sense of Purpose com: The Father Warrior Meets the Have-It-All WomanIf Men Get Paid More, Is It Realistic for a Dad to Be the Primary Parent? 19 DAD: Discrimination Against Dads "It Doesn't Feel Right When I See Them Together"Moms Have the Right to Children, Dads Have to Fight for ChildrenHow Did Father Knows Best Become Father Knows Less?Guiding Your Son to "Make a Difference" 20 The Best Parent is Both Parents, But . . . The Best "Parent" is an Attitude Shift Fighting in front of the kidsNo one asked why the men were drinkingCheap fun for dad and sonDad-inspiring movies When the Best "Parent" Cannot Be Both Parents The Cub Scouts and characterMentoring and rite-of-passage programsGrandfather timeWhen the biological father is missing, can God the Father help? 21 From "Cultural Shrug" to Cultural Shift Kill Today, Love Tomorrow: The Military Dad DilemmaFrom Father's Dime to Father's TimeThe Government: As Problem, as Solution Creating a White House Council on Boys and Men Our Dads, Our Sons, Our Guns 22 Creating Dad-Enriched Families PART V: Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence 23 Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence Biologically, Girls Just Live Longer, Right?Social Bribes: Hollywood-Heroic Health Versus Mental and Physical Health Does the new heroine mean your son won't have to risk his life for her love? Health Intelligence InventoryBoys' Weakness as Their Facade of StrengthYour Son's Body, Not His Choice "First and ten, concussion again!"My son wants to join the military. Is this good news or bad news? Your Son's Body, Your Son's Choice: Resisting the Sirens of Social Bribes 24 Emotional Intelligence and Mental Health The Barriers to a Boy's Emotional IntelligenceBehind Your Son's Mask "I'm fine . . . Just leave me alone."Helping your son take risks in life without risking his life How Heroic Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence Play Out in Everyday Life Moving to better neighborhoods helps girls and hurts boysThe bully and the bulliedHelping both the bully and the bullied Eighteen Steps Toward Integrating Emotional and Physical Health Intelligence into Heroic Intelligence 25 Reversing Depression, Preventing Suicide Causes of Suicide Women cry, men dieIf no human doing, no human beingSuicide is contagious Diagnosing Danger: The Warren Farrell Male Depression/Suicide Inventory (WFMDI)Preventing Suicide 26 Hidden Hazards to Your Son's Health The "Sperm Crisis": To Be, or Not to BeDrinking and DrugsThe Unholy Trinity: Obesity, Diabetes, and Erectile Dysfunction 27 From Hurt People Hurting People to Healed People Healing People Refilling the Empathy VoidCouples' Communication: Your Children's Best Inheritance PART VI: ADHD: Treatment With or Without Medication 28 The New Neural Crisis A New Spin on ADHD 29 The Four Faces of ADHD 30 The Many Causes of ADHD Addressing the Cause to Heal the Brain 31 Natural Solutions to Restore Dopamine Function 32 Natural Supplements for Better Brain Performance Conclusion Your Mission: Guiding Your Son to Discover His MissionExtending Gender Liberation to DadsFrom Cultural Shrug to Cultural Mission: A Gender Liberation Movement Appendix A: Family Dinner Night: The Five Essentials Appendix B: The Boy Crisis List: The Benefits of Dad, the Dangers of Dad Deprivation Bibliography Acknowledgments About the Authors